Sunday, September 28, 2008

S-T-O-P

We found Landen a car/truck bedroom set on craigslist for 40 bucks, it has a bed set, two rugs, and 5 framed pictures. Very cute.
Yesterday he was standing over the rug, and reading it, S, T, O, P. He always does this though, but then he sounded it out, SSS, Tuh, aww, puh (sorry I don't know how to spell the sounds properly, but you get the idea), and again, closer together,and you could hear the word perfectly, and then he says sssstuhawwpuh, LANDEN!!!! (As though he read th word Landen, not stop)
Matt and I were cracking up b/c we listened to him sound it out, and put it together like we do with him, and we looked at eachother, like, wow! and then he says "DANDEN" (how he says his name, even though he says L's perfectly) and we just laughed so hard.

Friday, September 26, 2008

Some recent pictures!

Landen at the beach with his giant rock.
Looking cute.
Snazzy 3D glasses!
At the Lowry Park Zoo, I love these pics, and his face!

So much better...

How I feel about things right now.
I haven't posted in a bit so I guess I should backtrack a little.
Nightweaning, yeah, no. We tried it, the first night it went rather well b/c he hadn't taken a nap, and he was to tired to resist, the second night he lost his voice crying, and woking up every 20ish minutes thru the night crying for "ayah" (breast), even crying for it in his sleep! That broke my heart, and the next day he would not leave my side, or my breast. It was hard on him, and it made me feel that he just wasn't ready for it. I have spent lots of love and time teaching him that mommy will be there if he needs me, and then I don't come. He wouldn't let Matt rock him to sleep, even in the night anymore, before he would at night, and so I decided, with Matt's support, that this wasn't for us. I went on a forum and found some moms who tandem nurse, and they all shared positive experiences. From the start I think the main reason I wanted to wean him was b/c I felt like I was supposed to, and that it would be to hard, sooooo many people said it would be hard, but the moms told me jealously was less, if not non existant with the tandem nursing. I know it will be hard on me the first few weeks, and I will have to teach Landen to wait, but hey, that's my choice.
Thanks for the support, and if you don't agree with my choice, thanks for keeping it to yourself (hint hint). I was ready to stop nursing, b/c of Landen's twiddling, but not if he's not ready.

I am 30 weeks now. Here's a picture:
From 922-25

From 922-25
Landen was a kicker, Logan is a stretcher, and sometimes I wonder if he will rip his way out of my stomach trying to completely stretch his whole body. I feel great minus the super achy hips. I got a maternity support, and that really helps, but I keep it in the car and wear it when I am out and about, its not comfortable to sit in. Last night Matt was laughing and watching amazed at my belly which was going several ways at once, and seeing a hand/elbow/knee/whatever stick out from both sides at once. This one wakes me in the night. I'm loving it by the way.
As for my births(for my doula training), well, the woman who taught my class and promised to call me for a birth each weekend, so I could get them in quick before Logan arrives, never called, and now I am getting to close to it being very uncomfortable to be a support for long hours. I am thinking I might end up waiting until Logan is done nursing which I really wanted to avoid, or at least not dependent on the breast, to get the births in. Frustrating.
Landen is doing great otherwise, learning lots of letters, colors, I've been working on a big project for him, and we have been doing fun crafts, and learning things every day. He really likes that.
The weather has finally cooled down some it seems all of a sudden. It's been not humid, and about 86 the past weeek. This morning we took a long walk around the neighborhood, and enjoyed the cool morning (maybe 75-78?) I am looking forward to opening the windows (altho the man who lives below us hurt his back and will be home for the next 6 weeks, and he smokes ALL DAY).
That's all for now...will post pics, thanks for reading!

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Nightweaning...

I can't begin to describe my feelings on this right now. As Landen approached 2, I decided I would wean him b/c I thought it would be hard nursing too, especially b/c he is so dependent on "Ayah" at night. When my pregnancy was high risk for that short time, I was told I had to do it right away, then it seemed, it wasn't as bad as they thought, and it wasn't such an emergency. My OB still says I should, but I think that is his feeling about nursing during pregnancy, rather than anything else. Then Landen got sick and sick and sick, and he just needed to breast. We tried one night to stop it, but he was so tired, and got so upset I couldn't do it. It broke our hearts.
So, here I sit, tonight, out in the car, as we make another attempt to wean him. I don't feel good about it. In fact, when I told him earlier, I cried. It's a special connection we have had for so long, and I do feel that its a need still in some ways. But I also feel that he needs to learn to put him self to sleep. Even if we are rocking him, for him to do it without the breast would be a good thing. I don't know what will happen to naptimes, I guess they will be out b/c I won't be able to nurse him!
Perhaps at night he will sleep better (he does sleep in his own bed) if he isn't waking for the breast out of habit? I think we have a long couple? of nights ahead of us, getting him to sleep properly.
I even thought to myself, I should have brought the monitor out, then I would know how he is doing, but that would torture me, hearing him cry for me, not being able to help him. He is EXHAUSTED b/c he didn't nap today, probably the second time ever. He was tugging and pulling on my nipples with his free hand as I tried to put him down, and I just couldn't dig it. LOL I asked him to stop, told him not to hurt Ayah, and then finally said, if you don't stop there will be no more ayah, ok? He said, uh huh, but continued. I made sure I told him several times, but I'm not sure he really understood.
Nursing two wouldn't be so bad really, I'm just worried about the nights, and the jealousy. If I have two boys waking at night for breast, I would never sleep. But if it comes down to that, its been done before, and, hey, I lose my fatty weight quicker right?
I am not sitting here changing my mind, giving in, I am just saying, if its to hard for him, I won't do it. I will try in 6 months or whatever. Or a year. But when I am in the hospital, or doing births this months, he is going to have to go to sleep somehow.
So just send me hugs. I should be writing a talk right now, that I got for tomorrow night last night. I am just to sad right now.